Saint Monica






Nativity Fast

This year will be our first Nativity fast for the Orthodox Lenten season.  We want to keep it simple since I am not too familiar with vegan cooking.  Below are a few recipe links which really caught my eye…enjoy!

And here are a few great books to start you out!

Red Dye Rage: How food Colors Effect the Brain

I am very adamant about not letting my kids eat food dye.  I have seen the effects in not just my children but others.  I can pick out that red dye haze and aggression a mile away, and that is before seeing the cherry red mustache the kid is sporting from a slushy.  I will be honest I never even thought about food dye before.  I grew up with colored candies and ice creams, so didn’t think much of giving my kids bug juice, and twizzlers, how about a pickle(yep even pickles have food dye).  Until one day I made the connection.  After my son drank a red kool aid and ate some “fruit” gummies I had Damian on my hands!  I started making the connection.  It wasn’t just him either, my daughter would become very whiny and suddenly start having potty accidents.  It was like their brains were sending mixed signals and dye was to blame.  Thankfully I found help through the Feingold Association and our dye induced nightmares became a thing of the past.

The thing is companies don’t actually have to tell you every ingredient that goes into their food.  For instance Coke has a secret recipe.  It is touted as all natural but if a company won’t release it’s ingredients then Feingold takes it off the safe food list!  Below is a little video and link to Feingold.  I absolutely recommend this program to all parents not just those dealing with behavioral or developmental issues, it is worth every single penny!

Food dyes are made from petroleum, as far as I know petroleum is not in the food pyramid.  So why are we putting these things in our and our children’s bodies?  Artificial flavors and pesticides can disrupt the receptors in the brain just as well as dye.  This has been such a problem that Europe has banned artificial dyes.  So why are American kids still being poisoned?  Below is the picture of a natural dyed m-n-m and an artificial one.  Not too big a difference, don’t our kids deserve it?


Many parents are petitioning for change like the mom below, you can actually see her son change in under an hour.  This is no different than giving your child a drug.

Let’s take a look at some ingredients: Pickles, Doritos, Fruit Gummies



All of these are things that are fed to children….have you ever actually read the back?  And it isn’t just the obvious bright colors either…things like chicken stock, soups, sauces, and even some fish and meat have food dye in them.  This is just dye that is not even talking about artificial flavors, or God forbid soy lecithin(watch out for that one!)

Think about this…when do most behaviour issues begin?  Around 2-3, right?  Why?  It may be the fact that until we were excellent at feeding our babies just the right fruit and veggies in their little jars and making sure every bowel movement was the perfect color.  We were pros at not giving kids sugar, I mean who give a 6 month old soda?  But at some point that candy flood gate opened and we thought that feeding kids meant feeding them just smaller versions of we eat (well what we shouldn’t eat either) So when our kid’s bodies reject this food experiment monstrosity we blame adhd, or feel we need to discipline more, or it has to be the teacher…yada yada…well it could be the food, so I encourage checking it out and going a month dye free, see what happens.

So what can you do?  Order from candy stores that sell all natural candies like:  (they even have sprinkles!!!)


Read Labels!!! Pack your child’s lunch, you can guarantee there is a load of junk in school lunches!  Bring Snack along in your purse and be prepared for parties! And if you don’t feel like you can handle it all, order the Feingold program they will make you a pro in no time!

Curse of the Zebra Cake: Diet and SPD

I want to start off by saying that I am not a Doctor and I am not a Nutritionist.  The information I share here is just from my own research and experience.  So make sure that you inform your doctor before any major diet changes.  You really don’t need approval to remove foods but be sure that your child is still receiving the right caloric intake for their size.  That is when it gets tricky and you may need the help of a nutritionist or doctor.  Now onto the blog post….

The day was April 19th.  A clear blue sky with fluffy white clouds hung overhead.  The field was green and lush from days of rain.  My son had played a great game of soccer following all the rules not pretending to be any kind of animal (real or imaginary) and we had enjoyed being just like everyone else.  And then it happened.  The game was over and as little hands clapped past each other in the age old rite of a game well played the after game snack appeared.

Here I was across the field holding a baby and trying to keep a 3 year old from running onto the field.  But I knew, I just knew that I could not wait.  I tossed our baby to my husband and took off running at full speed.  I was just in time to slap shot half a zebra cake out of my son’s hand, but not fast enough to stop the other half from being greedily devoured.  And not fast enough to keep myself looking from the crazy mom who uses NBA style moves to keep her kids on a diet.  I tried to save face by looking around at shocked faces and explaining, he has allergies, he can’t eat that…but the damage had been done.  Forget Tiger Moms I was a Zebra Mom.

You may be asking yourself, what is the big deal about 1 little zebra cake?  Well for a child with, sensory disorder, adhd, add, autism, tourette, or any other neurological issues, that one little cake can cause a weeks worth of set backs, emotions, and temper tantrums.  It is a complicated process going on in our bodies and when things aren’t quite working right.  Just a little bit can go a long long long way.

Diet is an issue that many health practitioners are now looking into.  Time and again they have seen children miraculously change just based on the foods they eat.  What was once just a suspicion is now becoming hard science.  So how does the diet effect a child?  It all starts with your gut!  Many children suffering from neurological conditions have leaky gut.  This means that rather than the food going through the digestive system it is passing into the blood stream instead and sometimes going straight to the brain.  That is a very easy way to explain a very complicated process, but this may help:

Leaky gut can cause a chain reaction of auto immune disease as the body begins to react to things that are not where they are supposed to be.  This is why sometimes when given an allergy test people will show an allergy to almost everything.  They are not actually allergic to everything but their body has created antibodies to the things that have slipped past their leaky gut.

The number one way to stop that leaky gut is to stop eating gluten.  It is also recommended to stop eating soy, dairy, potatoes, and corn as well.  Those foods are cross contaminators of gluten and if you are having gluten trouble you likely have issues with those foods too.  You may not have to be gluten free forever, but you do need to take this diet seriously.  Your child’s well being depends on it.

Ways to Heal a Leaky Gut:

1. Remove food irritants

2. Introduce Probiotics

3. Stick to the Plan

4. Slowly introduce foods back in after at least 6 months (if you have an issue then shelf it for another 6 months)

As their gut begins to heal their behavior will change and symptoms will start to disappear.  When we first went gluten free my son would have horrible reactions to the least bit of gluten.  It wasn’t just behavior either, he would have digestive issues, eczema flare ups on his hands and feet, and have trouble sleeping.  We have been gfree almost a year now (also all natural no dye) and he is thriving.  I also noticed that the zebra cake incident only made him a bit emotional and it only lasted a day.  I am hopeful that one day he won’t have to be on a special diet (we will always be dye and artificial free) and he can just relax a little.  Until then I will be packing lunches, packing snacks, and making sure I am always prepared.  It isn’t easy, but it is so worth it.  Even if I have to slap shot a few Zebra cakes along the way.

There is soooo much more about diet that I am going to have to write several posts, my next one will be about food dye and artificial flavors.

Meditation Mandalas for Peace and Tranquility

Okay, so I am not one of those incense burning hippie types.  I do like a good broomstick skirt on occasion but I am certainly not the Birkenstock wearing psychedelic type.  If anything I am conservative and careful not to get too New Age with my beliefs.  I can appreciate the beliefs of all cultures, but am just not really into too much of that tranquility and peace, zen stuff.

As evidenced by my last few posts maybe I need a little more feng shui going on in our house.  I was gifted a set of virtue magnets (more about those in another post) and when the order came they had included a mandala coloring page.  The description said for peace and tranquility.  Stress Relief was in big letters.  I could use a little stress relief, I thought.  So I pulled out some markers and got to work.  I worked on that picture for 3 days and I am still not done.  Was it a magic tranquility pill, no.  But it does give one a chance to step back and just focus on something else for a few minutes.


I was also very surprised when my son asked to also color one, so we printed a few out and he happily colored them for over an hour.   That afternoon when he started getting a little hyper I handed him another one, he eagerly started coloring and calmed down.  Will it work every time, probably not.  But I am gonna ride this ship as far as it will take me.  He even started drawing his own mandalas.


So I highly suggest checking out some free mandala coloring pages or getting some books, they have lots available on Amazon.